

I’ve now been to my first ever writer conference and it was great! I was afraid it might be a bit of an ordeal for me since I tend to be overwelmed by crowds, but it wasn’t like that at all. I wandered around after registering, looking for online friends, but I didn’t see anyone I knew so I sat at a table with these three lovely people.Maureen,Wendy and her daughter Lilly were very friendly, and Wendy had even read Sleeping With the Wolf! I felt like I had made some new friends.
Later that evening I did find some Divas. It was marvelous to meet them. Now when I am online it will be even nicer because I’ll be able to put faces with names.
I didn’t know I’d have a place at the book signing table so I was totally unprepared. I was seated beside Dana Marie Bell, who was very friendly. I got a lot of great ideas about what to bring for a signing when your books are in e-format. I handed out the rest of my romance trading cards, signed a few shirts, bags and even a kindle cover.
Steph Smith, who recently moved back to Cincinnati, dropped in to say hi and have a drink. Here she is with Romance Diva Neith (Elise Logan)
I even got to meet a couple Diva’s husbands. this is Paige Tyler and her husband Paul. I really enjoyed them.
I didn’t get half the pictures I wanted to. I met so many people that I wish I had photos of like Mary Quast and Rita Sawyer and Nalini Singh. Virginia Cavanaugh and I goofed around in the photo booth. My scanner isn’t the greatest, but here we are, being silly and having fun. It was a great weekend for me and I’m looking forward to doing it again.
This weekend I’m going to be at Lori Foster’s Reader & Author Get Together in Cincinnati. I’m a brand new author and tho I feel i’ve amde friends in the4 writing community I only know them via the internet. So I’m really hoping to meet them in person!
1. Nalini Singh. This lady is no one I’ve even chatted with, but I LOVE her books. I’m bringing Kiss of Snow and hope to have her sign it for me. I hope I don’t go all fan-girl on her.
2. Monette Michaels/Moni Draper. An editor at Liquid Silver Books, she has been very kind and encouraging to me.
3. Virginia Cavanaugh. A fellow writer who stepped in when I needed some help and encouragement with Wolfs’ Glory.
4. Emily Ryan Davis. Years ago I read her Dragon Queen trilogy and when I first joined Romance Divas I squealed at seeing her name. Then she actually posted a response to one of my questions!
5. Sasha Devlin. A fellow author who was kind enough to say she loved Sleeping With the Wolf.
6. Paige Tyler. A fellow author (who has way more experience in the romance pubosihing world than I do) and Thursday 13 participant.
7. Robyn Bachar. Another Romance Diva I want to meet.
8. Ann Christopher. This author kindly volunteered to give me a ride to the airport on Sunday.
9. Keri Ford. A fun loving fellow author and Romance Diva.
10. Eliza Gayle. Another of the Romance Diva crew.
11. Jeanette Murry/KJ Reed. Romance Divas everywhere! This is going to be SO FUN!
12. Linnea Sinclair. Another author I’ll probably squeal over like a fan girl.
13. Mary Quast/Cindy Spencer Pape/Elise Logan/okay, I’ve run out of numbers before I ran out of people I want to meet!
This will be my very first conference as an author, so I’m a little nervous. But I’m going to do my best to put my “I’m-not-shy” face on and get to know some of the marvelous people I’ve rubbed shoulders with online. If you’ll be at Lori Foster’s please come find me and say hello!
I have made a few updates to my website. I have fixed the broken link for the excerpt to Sleeping With the Wolf on the Excerpts page. (I hope) Let me know if it still doesn’t work. I also have finished buying my swag to give away at Lori Foster’s Reader & Author Get Together. Just have to assemble the little goodie bags. Hard to believe it’s less than a week away! I am hoping to meet lots of people there.
Wolf’s Glory is releasing today from Liquid Silver Books. If you don’t want to enter my contest to win, you can go there and buy the book. But since the winners will be announced at about the same time the book is made availoable, what can it hurt to enter? Go ahead. Make me type more names into the random name generator. 🙂
Last week, Sandy from All About Romance made a blog post about romance reviews. She was speaking specifically about how easy it is to form online friendships between authors and reviewers and how such friendships could produce a review that was not completely honest. I was interested to see it, since I’ve been thinking about reviews with my next book coming out in a couple weeks. I would far rather have an honest review than one that just said vague, nice things.
No author wants a review that goes like this: “This book was awful. The only reason I finished it was because I had to post my review of it. Take my advice and don’t waste your time or money.” This is a prefectly valid opinion of a book, and the reviewer is entitled to his or her opinion. However, a review like that isn’t helpful. As a reader I want to know what it was about the book that the reviewer found so awful. The thing they hated might be what makes me happy. The same goes for a glowing review like this: “I loved this book! I’ll be reading this author again!” To be perfectly honest, I’ll take the good review over the bad one any day, but as a reader I want to know what the reviewer did and didn’t like about a book. It helps me decide how my limited book budget will be spent.
Do you review? I don’t mean just the people who review for a site, but also those who review informally on Good Reads and Amazon and those places. If you read Sleeping With the Wolf or Wolf’s Glory and want to leave a review but hesitate to be completely honest, don’t. Hesitate, that is. If you disliked my book, say so. Please be nice about it. “This book sucked!” may describe your feelings about it, but it isn’t helpful for other readers. “This book started off good but lost steam half way through and I just never got back into the story” or “I didn’t like the heroine. She was too operfect for me to relate to” helps a reader know why it sucked for you.
A reviewer should never have to soften a review so as to not offend an author. Then it’s no longer a review but an ego-stroker. We authors can always use some ego-stroking, but a review may not be the place for it. A negative review can be hurtful, but if the reviewer is honest and resepctful, an author accepts it and moves on.
I’ve always kept myself busy with work, church, the SCA, the Loopy Ladies Knitting Group, the Boucle Yarn Studio Sock Club, the Harry Potter Knitting Crochet House Cup, etc, etc … I’ve enjoyed doing those things (except work, but hey, gotta pay bills, right?) But lately I’ve felt like it was a chore. Something I had to do, not something I wanted to do for fun.
I am exhausted! I’ve written very little in the last six or eight weeks because I have so much other stuff going on that I can’t squeeze it in. I’m stressed and frustrated and tired. It might be the pneumonia I had last March, or the stress from the expected flood, or Mom’s surgery in April or the stupid allergies that have taken over my sleep, but I don’t think that’s really it. I think it’s because I’m still living my life as I did before I became an author. I’m still spending my evenings and weekends helping others sew SCA garb, working overtime, teaching people to knit, volunteering at church, etc, etc. But being a writer is really a second job. I can’t focus on writing and also do the things I used to. Something has to change!
Here are 13 things I am going to STOP doing and START doing:
1. Stop imagining I have all the time in the world.
2. Stop working overtime. The money is nice, but I just can’t keep up.
3. Stop volunteering to do things when people don’t even ask me to do them.
4. Stop agreeing to do things when I am asked.
5. Stop feeling guilty for saying no.
6. Stop feeling like I have to attend knitting meetings/SCA meetings. (Not that I go to all of them now, but I feel like I SHOULD go and I feel guilty when I don’t)
7. Stop putting my writing second.
8. Start thinking of myself as a person with two jobs.
9. Start practicing saying “I’m sorry I can’t help you/attend that meeting. My time is booked.”
10. Start scheduling my writing time, just as a second job at McDonalds would have a schedule, and not changing it for any little thing.
11. Start scheduling “ME” time so I don’t get burned out. Reading for fun, going to a movie, getting a manicure, etc.
12. Start believing saying no and guarding my writing time doesn’t make me a bad or unloving or lazy person.
13. Start enjoying my life again.
Has anyone has to deal with this? Did you wake up one morning feeling like your life was a bullet train rushing off without you? What did you do?
I’ve the read the first two of this series and am thrilled the next is out! Take a look.
The Beta book 3 of The Vanguards is released!